I remember how it felt when I was at my lowest. My kids were off creating lives of their own, my marriage was feeling like it was beyond repair, and my anchor, my mom — the mom I knew — no longer knew me. Though she was still in my life, I was now mothering her.
My heart ached. I just wanted to be on other side of all this but I couldn’t see how to get across.
Behind the strong façade I’d built up to hold myself together while the foundations I’d relied on for so long were crumbling beneath me, I felt lost and alone. I wished I had a crystal ball to tell me what to do next and that all would work out in the end. I only knew that, now, my heart hurt…and I didn’t want it to hurt anymore.
Little by little over the years and unbeknownst to me, I’d put up invisible shields around my heart so I could be strong and reliable for everyone else. Those shields prevented me from feeling disappointed. They also prevented me from hearing the wisdom of my heart and the guidance of my soul. So I pressed on, learning new skills for a new career; doing self-help courses to fix what felt broken; asking friends for advice, over and over again.
I was afraid to trust what I innately knew; that I’d only be happy when my heart was happy — when it no longer ached for things I longed for — when I honoured my needs and desires (instead of waiting for others to) — when I accepted that I am loveable exactly as I am.
I knew I had to start trusting my heart, fully and completely. That scared me.
If I followed my heart then it meant things would change. Tough decisions would have to be made and, if it didn’t work out, I couldn’t blame anyone else.
Change is scary because what’s on the other side is unknown. It feels safer to stay where you are because at least you know what to expect. Except staying means nothing changes.
Little by little, I listened to my heart. More and more, I learned to trust it.
As the shields I’d erected slowly came down, the whispers of my heart grew louder and my soul’s wisdom shone through.
We all get Love Notes from our Soul. They live in the depths of our heart.
The more you open your heart, the clearer the messages are and the more confident you become because the answers you need aren’t ‘out there’; they’re inside you.
What I know for sure is, the more you trust your heart, the more you live in alignment with your soul, therefore, the happier you become; no fixing or outside advice required.
How about you? Do you hear and trust your heart’s whispers?
If you’re ready to start listening to and trusting the whispers of your heart but aren’t sure how to begin or you’d like some guidance, I invite you to take my on-demand, self-study course called Write To Your Heart. It will help set you on the path to a heartfully happy life. To learn more, click here.
